The Loss of Your Baby

Miscarriage is clinically defined as the loss of a pregnancy in the first 20 weeks.

For you, miscarriage is much more. It’s the loss of control, of trust in your body, of a great expectation and a sweet dream. It’s the loss of your baby. 

Suffering a miscarriage can be quite traumatic. While your body may recover relatively quickly, the emotional healing may take much longer. You may not want to face your feelings after a pregnancy loss, but working through the pain will help you emerge a stronger person. 

Bereavement Services Support Group

Share is an international support organization with local groups led by parent volunteers. Share is here to help those whose lives have been touched by the tragic death of a baby through pregnancy loss, stillbirth or in the first few months of life. 

Our Share support group meetings take place 

7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. on the third Tuesday of each month. The location is St. Michael Lutheran Church, 2619 Augusta St., Greenville. 

The Creative Support Team (CREST) offers the following suggestions to help you through the grief process, including keepsakes to help you honor the memory of your baby’s brief but precious life.

These ideas may help you grieve in the early hours, days and weeks after your loss. 

  • Name your baby – you can write your baby’s name and date in a favorite book or family Bible.
  • Plant a tree in memory of your baby – and create a special place that family members can visit and remember your baby.
  • Make a garden stone in memory of your baby.
  • Make or wear a special piece of jewelry in memory of your baby.
  • Write down your feelings in a journal.
  • Write a letter to your baby.
  • Take care of yourself with good nutrition and exercise – grief is a physical, mental and spiritual process, and it can take a toll on your mind and body.
  • Educate yourself on your loss; communicate with your doctors.
  • Learn about the grief process to help you find better ways to cope with your loss.
  • Find a support system – join a support group. GHS has an excellent one that supports families grieving the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth or newborn death.
  • Allow yourself to grieve and give yourself plenty of time. There is no time limit: Grief can be a long process and it is life changing. You will never forget the baby that you have lost.
  • Most of all, follow your heart.

Grief can lead to depression

If you are feeling that you need more help and support at any stage in this process, please contact the Creative Support Team (CREST) or the Bereavement Services Support Group at (864) 455-3911. We are here to help – most of us, too, have lost a baby.